A Mother Apart

How to let go of guilt and find happiness living apart from your child

By: Sarah Hart


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Size: 191mm x 235mm
Pages : 242
ISBN : 9781845900946
Format: Paperback
Published: February 2008

A Mother Apart has been written to relieve the isolation of the many women separated from their child who say, ‘I thought I was the only one’.

The number of mothers living apart from their children continues to rise. Women leave their children, lose custody, lose touch, choose part-time motherhood or find themselves with no contact at all, for a whole range of reasons. A Mother Apart: How to let go of guilt and find happiness living apart from your child moves beyond the stigma linked to mothers who leave their children and offers understanding and practical support to help mothers come to terms with their emotions as they adjust and come to terms with life apart from their child. This book provides insight and sympathetic approaches to help manage complex situations and strong emotions, including how to:

  • understand and free yourself from excessive guilt and other difficult feelings
  • grieve your loss and move on with an open heart
  • learn the art of big hearted mothering: deep love from afar, over time
  • find positive ways to integrate your life as a mother apart and independent woman
  • fully appreciate how the capacity to love deeply from afar makes you one of the most extraordinary mothers in the world

The book’s primary audience is mothers who consciously choose to leave their children, and mothers who find themselves separated due to circumstances out of their control i.e. losing custody, children taken into care, mental illness or abduction. The secondary audience is new partners, relatives and friends with an interest in understanding and supporting the primary audience; counsellors working with women apart from their children; and services that support women going through divorce and separation.

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Sarah Hart

As a qualified and experienced counsellor, Sarah has worked with women dealing with gender-specific issues connected to finding personal and professional fulfilment, work/life balance and living apart from their children, for over ten years. She has a Masters Degree in Policy Studies, focusing on working women, motherhood and social policy. Drawing on her professional studies and her own personal experience of living apart from her child she offers a unique and pragmatic approach to supporting women who find themselves, for whatever reason, living apart from their children.

Read Sarah's article Mother's who walk out - the last taboo?' on The Telegraph's website.


  1. This was a very moving book, well organised and useful.

    Every chapter has a theme, and it can be read in sections, with examples of individual situations. The overwhelming impression of positive energy and making the best of a bad situation, coping with grief, change and loss.

    If the word "parent" or "father" had been substituted for the word "mother", it would describe perfectly the experience of most FNF members and their families.
  2. In this touching, inspiring and deeply wise book, Sarah Hart has distilled the wisdom of her extensive personal and professional experience. It is a book to treasure, to return to again and again as compassion, insight and useful practical suggestions leap off every page. Sarah covers all the struggles and heartaches mothers in this situation are likely to encounter and shows us how to reach a deeper healing and love than we might ever have imagined possible. I am delighted such a beautiful book has been written at last about such a painful and frequently misjudged subject and wholeheartedly recommend it to anyone interested in the challenges of love, especially mothers, and most of all to those who love their children from afar.

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