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Elaine Halligan

Elaine Halligan is a director at The Parent Practice and has been a parenting specialist since 2006, helping parents raise competent and confident children through parenting classes, private coaching and keynote speaking in schools and corporate settings both in the UK and overseas. She is frequently quoted in the broadsheet press and regularly appears on Sky News, BBC world news and BBC local radio. Her mission is to help parents find the holy grail of parenting: keeping calm and bringing out the best in their children.

Click here to listen to the Parent Practice podcast.

Click here to read Elaine’s interview in The Telegraph.

Click here to listen to Elaine’s podcast with The Extraordinary Business Book Club.

Click here to listen to Elaine’s podcast with How to Raise a Maverick.

Click here to listen to Elaine’s discussion with Conversations with Cyrus Webb.

Click here to listen to Elaine’s podcast ‘Late Night Parents’ on NY Radio.

Click here to listen to Elaine feature on ‘Top of Mind’ with Julia Rose on Sirius XM Satellite Radio/BYU Radio Network.

Click here to listen to Elaine’s interview with So Booking Cool!

Click here to listen to Elaine’s podcast interview with Teach Learning Leading K 12.

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Publications by Elaine Halligan

My Child’s Different

Elaine Halligan’s My Child’s Different: The lessons learned…

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Blitzing Boredom

Ordinarily you may really look forward to the school holidays –ditching the routine, sleeping in a bit later, no home schooling hassles for a while, and dreaming about getting away to warmer climes.

However for many of us, the thought of a summer holiday by the beach is a mere pipe dream. This is no ordinary summer. As many countries transition out of Lockdown, parents are left pondering exactly how we play entertainment director; driving kids to some sort of activity, organising play dates whilst maintaining social distancing, and how we devise things for them to do at home while working ourselves is anyone’s guess. The thought of it may fill you with panic and dread. Do you end up abandoning your good intentions and let them have even more iPad time and wonder how on earth are you are  going to get them detoxed from screens?  Of course many of us have let our kids have more time on a device over this lockdown period, recognising this is a short term solution to save our sanity which may cause a long term problem.

Of course there is much that is good about modern technology - we’ve all been using it for educational purposes, for entertainment and for socialising, but we also need to limit the time kids spend in front of a screen because there are many other things they need to be doing, most importantly interacting with other human beings, discovering themselves and using their brains. Many video games encourage children to seek ever greater levels of stimulation with their hits of dopamine and their fast-paced action discouraging the development of sustained thought. All of this makes it less likely our children can focus for any length of time and solve problems in creative ways. And constant engagement with a screen makes for less engagement with parents which reduces the influence we have with them.

But our children don’t just need less screens, they need less adult organisation generally if they are to be able to think for themselves. Your solution to holiday ennui may be to enrol them in day camps, and indeed there are some very  creative offerings out there. These can provide great opportunities to be physical and social and learn new skills, but if your child is always being directed by someone else, they can lose the ability to think for themselves. It is only in moments of quiet when they are not engaged in structured play, whether on a screen or not, that children learn to think for themselves and be creative.

Get your children used to thinking for themselves in these 5 ways:

  • Don’t answer all their questions. Instead turn the enquiry back to them and ask them what they think. Often a question is not really a genuine request for information but a bid to connect with you. Smile and engage with them. Get them to really think about it before turning to Prof Google.
  • Don’t tell them what to do all the time. Instead have written routines and charts that record what they need to do. These should be created with input from the children. Direct them to those. This reduces the amount of nagging you’ll do. Yes, I know you mean to remind them, not nag, but that’s how they hear it.
  • Provide them with creative playthings. Ideally kids should have toys which allow them to create their own narrative or build their own structures or devise their own games. Obviously pencils, paints, beads, fabric and modelling clay encourage free expression but so do building blocks without a designated outcome of a specific vehicle or structure. (Consider Lego Mixels)
  • Develop a culture of tolerance for mistakes. There are no wrong answers and not just one way of doing things.
  • Value their ideas. Ask them for their opinions and acknowledge their feelings.

So if you hear the dreaded words ‘I’m bored’ what should you do? Despite the look on your child's face nobody ever died of boredom. It's only when the outside stimulation slows that children can reach inwards to find their own creativity and initiative. Do empathise with them but don’t take over. Instead before the holidays arrive or as soon as possible have a family meeting to brainstorm some ‘blitz the boredom’ ideas.

Develop some rules about electronic usage in holiday time. But it’s not enough to limit your child’s time on a screen – you have to have alternatives.

We recommend you have a Boredom Buster jar filled with ice cream sticks. On each one you write down one idea for things to do, generated by the kids. Then when they say they are bored these ideas will jog their thinking. Here are a few suggestions: 

  1. Make a kite or paper airplanes and fly them
  2. Go round the family/neighbourhood and ask each person for one joke to put in a joke book
  3. Create an obstacle course in the garden and have family Olympics
  4. Build a pillow fort or den
  5. Establish a regular board game night – check out https://www.thedarkimp.com for a free game download
  6. Make parachutes out of hankies tied to pegs or little figures and drop them over the stairs
  7. Make a house out of a cardboard box
  8. Write a short story or comic book
  9. Indoor gardening - plant a herb garden
  10. Go on a nature scavenger hunt in the garden
  11. Decorate a tee shirt
  12. Make glass lanterns out of jam jars, food colouring or glass paint
  13. Have a water pistol or balloon fight outside
  14. Make a healthy smoothie or pizzas
  15. Do some fun free downloadable activity sheets
  16. Put on a play or make a film
  17. Collect rocks and paint them-distribute them around the neighbourhood for others to find
  18. Create a family journal with items for each family member like dates and place of birth, pet names, favourite colours, songs, foods and activities, best skill and any funny of meaningful stories.

You are only limited by your imagination, so get the kids thinking!

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Celebrating Fathers

As I am writing this it is Fathers’ day in the UK and in the USA and in the midst of the Covid-19 pandemic it feels like a particularly good time to acknowledge fathers. All of us have had our worlds turned upside down by Covid-generated restrictions on our way of life. Some dads have lost their jobs, some have been furloughed and some have been working from home. Across the world many fathers have been in isolation at home with their families and spending much more time with their kids than usual.

And dads have stepped up.

50 years ago the role of a dad was to support his family financially. When a child was born he was waiting in the wings and his role in the life of the baby was from the sidelines. He did not go to ante-natal classes and was not expected to participate in labour or care for the newborn. He was not directly involved in feeding, bathing or changing the infant (and so did not have the opportunities for bonding provided by those activities), but he could put together the cot and the child seat, and he could go to work. As the child got older he might be involved in discipline and weekend activities. He would teach a child to throw and catch a ball but pretty much everything else was down to mum.

In the half century that followed women gradually got involved more in the paid workforce and in the 21st century the two parent working family is much more the norm. But still mostly it was the women who were taking on responsibility for the childcare. It would generally be mum who’d stay home if a child was sick. Mums would more often take care of homework supervision and organise playdates and birthday parties.

All families are different but there has been a steady rise in the involvement of dads in their children’s everyday lives. Until the pandemic forced fathers out of delivery rooms it had become much more the norm that dads were present and playing a crucial supporting role in the birth and were encouraged to bond with the baby from birth. There is evidence that dads who are actively involved and invested in the baby before they are born remain involved throughout the child’s life. I interviewed for our podcast a dad of a 4 year old and 10 month old who was already working from home before isolation was thrust upon his family and he thought that surely it was the norm these days that parents would share the childcare responsibilities equally. Whether or not that is the rule in all families with young children today there is much evidence that when dads get into the grunt work their relationship with their kids is much enhanced (to say nothing of what it does for their relationship with their partners).

At The Parent Practice we have noticed a marked increase in the number of dads actively engaged in our online positive parenting courses during isolation and families report that dads are taking responsibility for their children in unprecedented ways. Most report that they are loving the amount of time they have had with their families.

Since there is so much to be concerned about regarding isolation it is good to reflect upon this massive silver lining to the Covid cloud. Pre-pandemic it had been reported that younger fathers particularly were keen to spend more time with their families but that their work culture didn’t always allow it or they feared that their career prospects would be jeopardised by taking time off for childcare. Perhaps in the post-Covid era there will be a shift toward more flexible work practices for dads.

Because dads’ involvement matters.

It is well documented that having an active, engaged, involved father in their life really makes a difference to outcomes for a child.

Showing up is half the battle, whether a father lives full time with his children or not. A father living apart from his children needs to be more creative but as isolation has shown we can be resourceful  when  it comes to the vital task of staying in touch. We can write, send pictures or photographs, use video calling platforms (who isn’t an expert in Zoom now?) and phone. “Even if you’re not in physical proximity, knowing your dad cares and wants to be involved to the extent that they can is really important,” says Marcy Carlson, a sociologist at the University of Wisconsin. (Quoted in Fatherly) And she reminds dads that providing for their kids also goes a long way.

When dads are positively engaged in everyday activities with their kids and warm and emotionally involved, feeding them, playing with them, putting them to bed, reading to them, supervising homework and attending school events, having conversations with them, providing emotional support and positive discipline, etc the following outcomes can be predicted:

  • Better social competence and emotional intelligence
  • Better physical and mental health
  • Better academic results
  • Less involvement in drink and drugs
  • Better self-control and behaviour
  • Stronger self-esteem and lower incidence of depression 

If you’re physically present with your kids the next level up is being engaged and warm and this is what matters if dads are to impact the above areas. Playing with kids is good for building relationship but also for teaching them social skills and for cognitive development. Dads are particularly good at allowing children to take risks; their play tends to be of a more physical variety which allows the child to develop physically, to learn where the boundaries are and to trust themselves and dads communicate the value of exploring which builds creativity. When dads give the message that the child is capable of a task, the child believes that he is capable and also enjoys and values the task.

Children are watching their dads all the time. Boys model themselves on their dads and girls form their expectations of how men should be by watching their dads. So be sure you are that man for them.

Remember that dads matter and keep up the good work.

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